ROW80 Check-in #81 Happy Things

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The writing challenge that knows you have a life.

It takes an effort to be happy. For some it comes easier and it certainly can be easier on happy occasions, but for the rest it takes an effort. To start, you need to want to be happy.


Yes, you need to want it. I can tell you, since I’m in the middle of grieving for my FIL, it’s hard to want it. Emotions are so strange.

This week I planned the flowers for the MILmemorial service. As you know, I love flowers and so did my FIL. It was one of the things we talked about all the time.

It was an honor to do this for my family. The white vase is for my MIL and it will be filled with white oriental lilies and white calla lilies. White and red were the colors of their kidswedding and fiftieth wedding anniversary this summer. So, we decided to go with pure white.

grandkidsBesides red, my FIL enjoyed all shades of purple. The vase from the brothers/myself and the vase from my two boys, I picked mostly purple. I think it will be beautiful. Happy. My FIL enjoyed life. He got a kick out of making people laugh. It’s okay to still be sad. It’s okay to celebrate his life. It’s okay to be happy.

If I’m going to be happy, I’m going to have to want it.

This light bulb moment arrived the same evening as the edits for my next release. Coincidence? I think not. I can not wait to release this story. I’m proud of it. I love the characters and their courage. They filled me up yesterday as I read their story once again. Thank you Ivy and Seth.

The Goals – week-7 results

    • Spend at least 1-hour a day with my characters- half done.
    • Daily progress in writing craft, word count, editing, and/or plotting- half done. Sunday and Monday I was still moving full steam ahead. Once Tuesday arrived, I fell apart. Planning for my FILs memorial kicked my grief into high gear and I lost my energy to write. Between Sunday and Monday I added just shy of 4k to the WIP and I ended the week editing my next release and sending it back to my publisher. It’s surreal to be excited and heart broken at the same time. Life moves forward and I will too. I probably won’t get back into Nano, but that’s okay. I had no idea I could write 29k in 18-days. I learned a lot this month. I also see lots of writing and editing in my future and that makes me happy. 🙂
    • Take care of and be kind to myself- half done. This week I had a hard time with this goal, because taking care of myself makes me feel better and it’s hard to feel happy. UGH!! Grief sucks. Anger is only stage two. Grr. I’ll probably be bouncing around the stages this week. Just like writing, grief is a journey and not a sprint. I have to choose to be happy. This is definitely a Week 8 Priority.

What you might have missed here this week:

Spotlight: Inn for the Holidays by Ella Jade

Spotlight: RIVER RECKONING by Jenny Lyn

Mid Week Tease: Nadia’s Slip and Ethan’s Catch <– I shared from my NaNo project

Thankfully Naughty Giveaway Hop! <– stop by for a look at TAKING CHANCES and my soon to be new release UNTANGLE ME. Don’t forget to enter for your chance to win.

4 thoughts on “ROW80 Check-in #81 Happy Things

  1. Once again, sorry for your loss…the flowers are so beautiful. Emotions are crazy…this year especially. Take good care of yourself.
    l finished my short story, and am redoing another one changing POV and making it R rated…Mateo and Raven are pushing me in that direction.
    Get through the holiday and take care of myself, that’s my goal for this week…and tomorrow l’m not coming home w/o a new keyboard!

  2. Your FIL sounds like someone who’d want his family to definitely celebrate his life and be happy. And I agree–happiness is a choice! We all know people who seem determined to be miserable. Great job making progress this week while planning the funeral–that’s really hard. Keep up the good work, and be sure to let yourself be sad when that’s what you need to do.

  3. My condolences on the loss of your father in law, to you and your family. The flowers you picked out are beautiful in their significance. Take care of yourself.

  4. Sometimes smiling when I don’t feel like it makes me feel better. It is a choice, you’re right. Having good people around you also helps. So sorry about FIL. Loss is the hardest heartbreak, but there is life after death. I know. I adore those flowers.

    All the best and take care of you and yours. X

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